When I told my boyfriend I was hurt about something he said I wasn't, I was just being passive aggressive.?

I don't quite understand what he meant. I was just hurt. Those were my feelings. He seemed to take it to mean I was manipulating him. Obviously I dumped him after that (it happened a lot) but have you met people like this? He said 'I didn't hurt you'. I felt very hurt so it hurt even more when my feelings were dismissed like this, explained away. I've heard it's called 'gaslighting'. Is it a man thing?